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Kind signs

Pass your friends a compliment – without letting them know who it’s from!
Plan a session with this activity

You will need

  • Coloured pens or pencils
  • Scrap paper

Before you begin

  • Make sure there’s enough paper for everyone – everyone will need five or six slips of paper.

Write a pat on the back

  1. Everyone should get into groups of about five people.
  2. Each group should find a space. The person leading the activity should give each group some paper and pens.
  3. The person leading the game should label each group A, B, C, D and so on.
  4. Everyone should write a positive message for each person in the next group – group A should write for group B, group B for group C, and so on. The last group should write for group A.
  1. Once everyone’s finished their messages, each group should take it in turns to close their eyes while the group that wrote about them deliver their messages.
  2. Everyone should open their eyes and read all of their positive messages. If they want to, they could keep their kind signs for a time they need a little boost.


In this activity, everyone had the chance to write an anonymous message for someone else. How did it feel to receive kind messages and not know who wrote them? When do people usually hear kind things? Maybe people are used to hearing kind things from their friends, but not from people they’re less close to. How did it feel to think about kind things? Hopefully it boosted people’s moods a bit to send and receive the messages.

Why is it important to say nice things to others? Did it feel good to receive kind messages? What will everyone do with the messages they received?


All activities must be safely managed. Use the safety checklist to help you plan and risk assess your activity. Do a risk assessment and take appropriate steps to reduce risk. Always get approval for the activity and have suitable supervision and an InTouch process.